What I believe the most pertinent question is
by Jozsef Kapitany
I am a trainer and an associate college professor. Your brilliant writing has been flawless until this part:
(Lastly, and this one may sting a little, but it's almost always true as well.
"I DON'T SEE AND APPRECIATE MY OWN CONTRIBUTION.
I DON'T VIEW MYSELF AS A VITAL PART OF THE TEAM."
This must be true. How? You seem to need your boss to confirm it. You can't see it yourself, so you need outside proof. And when your boss didn't give it, you blamed her.
You may be thinking, "Well, hey! I'm the one who is stressed. The least she could do is relieve it!" And again...I am going to ask you, "Is that true?" Who is in charge of relieving your stress? YOU are in charge of relieving your stress.
No one can do that for you.)
Suppose I get my attendees to do this exercise. At this point however the question is bound to come up.
"So what? Okay, I distort reality but what and HOW should I do about it?"
What would you answer? How do YOU answer?