Personality Type

Personalities are the KEY to work stress.  You must learn about personality types to overcome work stress.  Knowing your own is not enough.  Being able to "read"others is a big part of it.

Our personalities are an important part of who we are. They are quite literally our protection and our main tool for getting around in this world.  They act as our social mask. As a species, we've evolved to a place where being our "real selves" is not always useful for earning a living (i.e., survival).  Learning as much as you can about personality type is a wise investment.  It will inform every area of your life, not just work.

There are many instruments available out there, but none as well known or distributed as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.  Other instruments include DISC and the Ennegram. I have links to free tests on my "Work-Stress-Tests" page, so if this is a new world for you, I suggest you "click" over there ASAP and start familiarizing yourself with your type and reading about others.

Another fabulous website is called "16 Personalities" and it has it all.  You can take the MBTI test and get a full-blown report for free (collectively these two offerings can cost an individual as much as $200).  

Whether you type as Extravert or Introvert, it will benefit you to familiarize yourself with both types and really understand the different physical wiring here.  It's not about social skill or shyness at all, for example.  It's about ENERGY.  Extraverts in the extreme can become the office vampire sucking energy from everyone around them in an attempt to keep up their own.  Introverts need quiet and alone time to concentrate and to stay energized. And this can translate as moody or standoffish in the workplace.

I suggest two books.  Quiet and Introvert Power.  And if reading is not your thing, then the website Introvert, Dear is very useful for understanding the much misunderstood component of personality:  Introversion.

Last, but not least, the author of "Quiet" has a very well-received TED Talk and I've provided that video link here:

TED Talk:  Susan Cain, The Power of Introversion