Our Need to Be Right:
Turning On Ourselves
Perhaps the way we are most cruel in our need to be right, is when we focus it on ourselves. We attempt something new or think about our future performance and it has to be "just right." We compare ourselves to others, ask for feedback (don't sugar coat it!), and study or examine our efforts until we find fault. We yell at ourselves mentally, we go over and over (and over) our past actions, we visualize the humiliation if we fail in the future. Being right is equated with SURVIVAL in our minds. No wonder we pounce on people, especially loved ones, when they do something we view as "wrong."
If you're going to think about anything today, think about that. And don't work so hard at this being right/being wrong business. It's not another test of your worth. It's just an alternative to how you are living now...a happier one.
Return from "Our Need to be Right" and back to 30-Day Challenge.
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