I definitely suffer with teh Disease to Please. I was raised in the South and am a woman and I think we are just conditioned to be this way. It's really hard to NOT try and make someone feel better or let people struggle with their consequences.
I have received a lot of help by reading Melody Beatty books (she writes about Codependency). I also hear the Al-Anon can be a good resource for this kind of issue.
