Daily Messages
Volume Three

DAY 38
From 'Think Simple Now.Com'

When making plans, [we] tend to overestimate and to over- achieve, creating super-tight, overly-ambitious schedules, leaving no room to breath. The problem with this approach is burn out and disappointment. When scheduling your day, make time to relax, time to breath, and time to recharge. Take it easy on your self. Goals, after all, are arbitrary. The real goal is to be happy.


DAY 39
Hey There. It’s Me, Your Brain.

Hey there. It’s me, your brain. Thanks for taking me on this walk in the woods, it’s just what I needed. Ah, nature. So lovely. So relaxing.

Wait, wow, what was that noise? Over there, coming from those bushes right next to the path? That huge thing covered in black fur, rearing up on its hind legs and baring its teeth? A bear, you say?

Okay. No problem. Here’s what I’m going to do.

First, my hypothalamus is going to alert the sympathetic nervous system, telling your adrenal glands to release adrenaline (aka epinephrine). It’ll give you a massive boost of energy by releasing stored up glucose (sugar) and fatty acids into your bloodstream. You might need that energy to climb a tree! Wait, bears can climb trees. Well, the adrenaline will also increase your breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure. That will fill your brain and muscles with lots of oxygen-rich blood.

Feel it? Now we’re talking. Your senses are sharper. You’re focused!

You’re even less sensitive to pain (but lets hope it doesn’t come to that).

(The full article/link to article is no longer available).


DAY 40
Isha Judd

I have to share this glorious woman's wisdom. To get started, consider following her on Twitter (http://twitter.com/#!/ishajudd)

Here are some highlights:

It takes courage to be real, but when you are, you will receive more approval than ever, because you will be approving of yourself.

In our society, we pretend all the time in order to be accepted by others, but the irony is that everyone else is pretending too.

What are you focusing on now? You can focus on what other people think of you, or you can focus on embracing yourself.


DAY 41
Can't Get No Satisfaction

We are waiting for something to happen, anything that might bring us the satisfaction that has eluded us for so long. The future seems to hold our only hope for true fulfillment, while the present moment — where we are all along, without any effort — is where we least expect to find it.

Judd, Isha (2010). Why Walk When You Can Fly? (p. 6). New World Library. Kindle Edition.



DAY 42
Professional or Personal?

I no longer separate my personal life from my professional life. They are one indivisible whole to me. If this entry seems odd on a work/career website, substitute the word 'love' with 'commitment' or 'dedication.' Read this while considering an employer that you left, or who left you, while reading:

"If you love, you will know that everything begins and everything ends, and there is a time for beginning and there is a time for ending, and there is no wound in it.

One is not wounded, one simply knows the season is over. One is not in despair, one simply understands, and one thanks the other: "You gave me so many beautiful gifts. You gave me new visions of life, you opened a few windows I might never have opened on my own.

Now the time has come that we separate and our ways part. Not in anger, not in rage, not with a grudge, not with any complaint, but with tremendous gratitude, with great love, with thankfulness in the heart.

If you know how to love, you will know how to separate."

~Osho

To read more visit Osho Online Library



DAY 43
Compassion Define

Sympathy says, “I’m over here and you’re over there. I’m sorry for you and I’m sad for you. And, while I’m sorry that happened to you, let’s be clear: I’m over here.”

This is not compassion. In most cases, when we give sympathy we do not reach across to understand the world as others see it. We look at others from our world and feel sorry or sad for them. Inherent in sympathy is, “I don’t understand your world, but from this view things look pretty bad."

When our need for empathy is met with sympathy, it can often send us deeper into shame—we feel even more alone and separated. Empathy is about connection; sympathy is about separation.

From: Brown, Brené. I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power.


                                                                         Day 44

An AMAZING video on why we need to become okay with being wrong. Being right creates enormous issues, costly (and even deadly) mistakes.

VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS

  • Humans love to be right, even if their rightness is not about a happy circumstance
  • Crazy as it sounds, our default setting is to assume we are close to omniscient, she says.
  • It upsets us to be wrong; we see it as rare, tie it to a slew of personal inadequacies
  • Being wrong helps us to learn empathy, optimism and courage, and to make changes

Go to VIDEO now.


DAY 45
Bossypants

This is from Tina Fey's book, Bossypants. The book is adorable, and of course, funny...but this entry was actually pretty damned profound and points to instructions for LIFE, so I thought I'd share it with you:

The Rules of Improvisation That Will Change Your Life

The first rule of improvisation is AGREE. Always agree and SAY YES. When you're improvising, this means you are required to agree with whatever your partner has created. So if we're improvising and I say, "Freeze, I have a gun," and you say, "That's not a gun. It's your finger. You're pointing your finger at me," our improvised scene has ground to a halt. But if I say, 'Freeze, I have a gun!" and you say, "The gun I gave you for Christmas! You bastard!" then we have started a scene because we have AGREED that my finger is in face a Christmas gun.

Now, obviously in real life you're not always going to agree with everything everyone says. But the Rule of Agreement reminds you to "respect what your partner has created" and to at least start from an open-minded place. Start with a YES and see where that takes you.

As an improviser, I always find it jarring when I meet someone in real life whose first answer is no. "No, we can't do that." "No, that's not in the budget." "No, I will not hold your hand for a dollar." What kind of what is that to live?

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DAY 46
Duality

Duality -The reality of opposites; good/bad, pretty/ugly, yin/yang.

Our reality was taught to us and is comprised of opposites. No coin comes without two sides and the same is true of people. There is no good without bad, beautiful without ugly, but our conditioning tells us there SHOULD be.

We suffer when we cling to one side of a duality and reject the other. Acceptance transcends duality. Accepting that life is sometimes this, sometimes that, suffering falls away.

~Cheri Huber


DAY 47
Worry

"Worrying about people and problems doesn't help. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't help other people, and it doesn't help us. It is wasted energy." — Melody Beattie

"Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don't want." -Abraham Hicks


DAY 48
Rewrite

Recently, one of my most important teachers suggested “As a Man Thinketh” by James Allen for my own supplemental reading. This book has been free for years, and I immediately downloaded the original work.

Unfortunately, I found the language so difficult to read, and so judgmental in tone, that I felt a strong need to rewrite it for my own comprehension of the material. So I did just that.

Here is the link to my PDF rewrite of James Allen's classic, "As a Man Thinketh." As the original book is free to everyone, so is my rewrite: 

http://www.work-stress-solutions.com/support-files/james-allen-modern-rewrite.pdf

Just copy and paste and put in your browser.


DAY 49
Excerpt from Richard Carlson's 'The Principle of the Present Moment'

The only way a thought, or series of thoughts, can harm you is if you give them significance. If you don't, they have no power to hurt you. And as long as you remember that your thoughts have no power to hurt you without your consent, you will retain power over your life. Rather than feeling victimized or defeated by the thoughts that stream through your mind, you'll be able to keep them in perspective. As thoughts enter your consciousness, you'll decide whether to pay attention to them, take them seriously and respond accordingly, or simply dismiss them and go on with your day.


DAY 50
Overcome Worry for a Healthier You
by Kathy Gates


Norman Vincent Peale said, “You are not what you think you are; but what you think, you are.” If we follow this philosophy, then most of us are certifiable worry machines.
Worry is our greatest energy drain. It distorts our thinking and stops all forward action. Can you control worrying?

First let’s make a distinction between worrying and concern. Concern is acknowledging a problem and taking steps to correct it. Worrying is going around in circles, fretting, not thinking, or taking action.

Changing your behavior is a good thing. But sometimes changing your behavior is merely changing what you are doing, and what really matters is changing what you are thinking. Our thinking directs our emotional reaction, which in turn directs our behavior. The way we react to a situation is not just a representation of the events; our reaction also depends on what we think the events mean.

In an article on cognition and behavior, Dr. John W. Bush illustrates how thinking affects our behavior as follows: A friend is an hour late to meet you. Depending on what you think happened (i.e., she was in an accident, she’s rude, I wanted to do something else anyway), you might be worried, annoyed, relieved, etc. These feelings (ignited by the thoughts) will then dictate how you react, e.g. calling the police, having angry words for her, or being glad she bailed on you. Notice how directly your thoughts affected how you felt and then directed the actions you took.

So how do you control your thoughts? Through conscious choice and practice. When you realize that you are worrying and fretting and are not practicing concern, try this: Plant your feet firmly in reality, and deal with the facts. Surrender to what you cannot change. Try to improve on it with a plan of action. That way you are thinking, formulating a plan, taking action. End of worrying.

In “Life Strategies,” Dr. Phillip McGraw deals with this idea in another way. He says, “you create your own experience.” This means that you understand and accept that the solution to not worry lies within you. It’s a matter of choice. Ask yourself, “what choices, thoughts, and behaviors can I change that will help me worry less?”

I’m not suggesting that bad things that may have happened to you were your choice. But as an adult, you do have the choice about how you think about it and deal with it. You create your experience day by day, through the choices you make.

Dr. McGraw also said, “Choosing thoughts contributes to your experience because when you choose your thoughts, you choose the consequences associated with those thoughts.” In order to truly change your actions (external), you must change your perceptions (internal). When we are able to alter our perspective, we have control of our thoughts.


DAY 51
Free Download

There's a book that has been around so long that it's now public domain (meaning no one owns the copyrights anymore because everyone that would earn royalties is likely dead). It's been mentioned to me in Law of Attraction circles and Get Rich forums and in spiritual awakening groups. It's called "As a Man Thinketh." So since it was free, I downloaded it and started reading it yesterday.

Egads. I felt like I was back in high school reading Shakespeare. I thought about translating it into modern-day speak, and then Googled that idea, and it turns out someone else already did it. It's also FREE, so I'm providing the link to the new and improved book for you:

Free Book "As a Man Thinketh..."


DAY 52
Busy Addict?

Adapted from Christine Arylo's Blog. Her blog is geared toward women, but this poem applies to anyone with a busy-ness addiction:

Let us NOT pass down the need to be busy,
the pride to be an expert multi-tasker
and the reality of being an exhausted person.

Let us admit that at some deep place inside of us
we like to be busy
we think it keeps us safe...
and we've learned to place our self worth in it's hands.

But enough is enough
the time has come to burn our badges of busyness!
Do you dare?
Are you willing to give up being 'busy'
and believe that you can still achieve great things?



DAY 53
Happy

I have a couple of thoughts today. For some of you, these won't make a bit of sense...but for others, this will be just what the doctor ordered :)

  • Some people are happiest, when they have something to be unhappy about.

  • A clean bathroom will not create happiness.



DAY 54
About Life

Life's not about expecting, hoping and wishing, it's about doing, being and becoming. It's about the choices you've just made, and the ones you're about to make; it's about the things you choose to say - today. It's about what you're going to do after you finish reading this." ~ Mike Dooley

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